Watch Your Mouth Defamation, Harassment, and the Right Side of the Law

 In the course of human events, it's almost inevitable that somewhere, at some  point, tempers will flare and someone will say something awful about someone  else. It can happen after the PTA meeting, in the gym, at the office...even in  one's own co-op or condo building. Heated exchanges and personal vendettas are  unpleasant and can make for an acrimonious building environment, which is bad  enough—but what happens when the words do more than just sting or insult? What happens  when it's more than just an offhandedly rude remark, or when it's ongoing?  

 Allowed...Or Illegal?

 The good news for boards and owners in co-ops and condos is that most of what is  said and printed regarding life within the community—even when heated and contentious, and even if not entirely true—is broadly protected by law.  

 When it comes to board members and building residents, “They are a ‘qualified group,’” explains attorney Jim Samson, a partner in the law firm of Samson Fink & Dubow, LLP, in Manhattan. As such, they are protected by the so-called common  interest privilege, which was contrived, Samson says, “to encourage open and free and frank discussion among members of a restricted  group, like a group of shareholders or board members. Communication among them  for the purpose of furthering the corporate business has a defense against  libel and slander, even if it turns out to be untrue—as long as you’re not being malicious about it.”  

 It is maliciousness, when it becomes defamation, that is the stuff of which  lawsuits are made. And sometimes the line between the open discourse protected  by law and actionable defamation is thin. To stay on the right side of that  line—i.e., out of court—it behooves board members to study the basics of the laws regarding defamation.  

 According to the pros, defamation occurs when you publicly malign someone’s character by accusing him or her of doing something that is reprehensible or  criminal, and thereby damage their reputation. Written defamation is called  libel, and defamation that is spoken is called slander. If they can  substantiated in court, damages that result from such statements can result in  heavy penalties.  


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  • I have a situation in my co-op that is similar but different. I need a personal injury lawyer who deals with co-ops. Do you have a list of lawyers you recommend?
  • I need a lawyer someone who lives in the coop has been harassing me.
  • My coop is not protecting my rights to peace and quiet enjoyment and is allowing the upstairs neighbor to harass me with noise. My complaints go on to deaf ears and I have been made ill with multiple stress related illnesses. These neighbors do whatever they want and create noise disturbances for me. I recently wrote a letter to board, no answer, I wrote to the upper manager who never answers my calls and I was told by the secy that my letter was in with legal. Now I believe they will try to evict me using the lies collected by the managers and possible defamation of me. Need help as will most probably be unjustly thrown out.
  • Dear "anonymous (with the upstairs neighbors harrassing you)". Please, stay calm in this situation, you DO have options. Calmly get your other neighbors on your side - especially if they are shareholders and/or have lived there a long time. You may want to talk to some city employees, city agency help, get some legal help, etc. If you would like to talk to me, please, let me know.
  • What about when a managing agent writes a letter about an occupant of a co-op that the person in question contends contains libel?
  • I have a homeowner who has written lies about me and passed them along for others to read. Also this homeowner has appeared in front of my door taking pictures several time, and I don’t know why....she only does it when I am not at home, my “door ring” captures her. Can I sue her for harassment and defamation? I am the President of the board.
  • The super in my co-op has been spreading malicious lies about me. He is upset because I complained to the property manager. The super sets up dates for plumbing issue to be taken care of and he doesn't show up. I have missed work several times due to this issue. More recently an account was opened on a site stating that I have been arrested twice. I have no criminal records or liens not even a parking violation. He has turned other owners against me. I had a teenager call me a disgusting nasty lady when I was doing laundry. Today I was on my way to a meeting in the city and a man a friend of someone who lives in the building started shouting after me disgusting nasty woman. I don’t know what he’s saying about me but it is malicious. My apartment is meticulous. I renovated my apartment everything is new. Help!! What can I do? Thank you for any advice you can provide.
  • Joseph S Desrosiers on Thursday, July 18, 2019 10:07 AM
    Your co-op board should act immediately. The super is a worker that works for the co-op and you are paying this man's salary. The only thing besides doing their daily duty in a coop any super is to respect all shareholders in the building and knowing them not get involved in politicking or else you should be out of a job. There are boundaries. Also in a co-op, many board members are not fully educated to understand what is going with other people's investment and I am dealing with such myself, some get too involved some don't get involved. I would rather a board that look in the situation to make sure the staff respects all shareholders paying the bills. Don't leave the issue to building management, it will fall on deaf ears. The co-op staff should be held accountable for their work and courtesy like our bosses expect of us all who work. There is no kingdom for supers in a place of employment. We made an investment not in the super but in the corporation. We expect respect from the staff. The super is not the owner. Every co-op in NYC should get this clear: the co-op board can always hire another super. Stop making things difficult for the investor. How many co-op buildings look at what their super does everyday and make them accountable to their responsibility of what to do daily? It is all about what type of people a board has on it.There must be a rotation of members of the board; otherwise the co-op is doomed to failure after failure. It becomes the same old thing with no vision...the co-op board remains aloof in their vision for the future and old board members sometimes refuse to change their old pattern because they have no standard. For many board members, the co-op monthly board meeting has become a ritual for their salvation with no comprehension.